- Your doula leads in gently, asking you how you found out about her practice, etc. Not pressing for too much information too soon.
- Your doula asks questions beginning with - Who, What, Where, When, How
- She does not ask leading questions with the answer "built in," i.e. "You're not going to do that are you?"
- Your doula offers the information you request.
- Your doula does not offer her own story unless requested by you, but may give insights when appropriate.
- She is a reflective and interpretive listener.
- She offers helpful feedback always keeping you and your desires at the forefront.
- Your doula does not overwhelm you with what ifs, too many statistics or technical jargon.
- She is supportive, positive and caring.
- She is humble, genuine and empathetic.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
A Doula's Focus - Is your doula putting you first?
You are the reason a doula does her job. Her responsibility is to "mother the mother." Is your doula putting you first? Here are some things to look and listen for: