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Thursday, November 5, 2009

A Doula's Focus - Is your doula putting you first?

You are the reason a doula does her job.  Her responsibility is to "mother the mother."  Is your doula putting you first?  Here are some things to look and listen for:
  1. Your doula leads in gently, asking you how you found out about her practice, etc.  Not pressing for too much information too soon.
  2. Your doula asks questions beginning with - Who, What, Where, When, How
  3. She does not ask leading questions with the answer "built in," i.e. "You're not going to do that are you?"
  4. Your doula offers the information you request.
  5. Your doula does not offer her own story unless requested by you, but may give insights when appropriate.
  6. She is a reflective and interpretive listener.
  7. She offers helpful feedback always keeping you and your desires at the forefront.
  8. Your doula does not overwhelm you with what ifs, too many statistics or technical jargon.
  9. She is supportive, positive and caring.
  10. She is humble, genuine and empathetic.
In short, you are the primary focus of your doula.  Her opinions, desires, etc. do not come into play.  She is 100% focused on you and your experience.  She is there to listen, comfort, inform and gently guide you through your birthing journey ~ honouring it as your precious life experience.


  1. Love your post! It's the perfect description of the attitude of a doula!

    Thanks for that!

  2. This is fantastic! Thanks! It's always nice to be reminded! ;)


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