Bringing Sexy Back!!!
At some point, you might have wondered how pregnancy will affect your sex life. Will you ever have uninhibited sex again? Will you have as much sex during pregnancy as you did before? If you haven’t thought about it I am sure your husband has!!!
Whether you’re completely uninterested in sex now that you’re pregnant, or you’re feeling sexier than ever (you go girl!!!), most women find that pregnancy changes their sex lives in ways they never expected.
The great part about sex during pregnancy is that this is probably the first time you have been able to make love without worrying about getting pregnant! Whoo-hoo!!!
The majority of couples experience ups and downs in sexual desire during the nine months leading up to a baby’s birth. Here are common issues that many couples have experienced:
Pregnancy Changes and Sexuality
- First Trimester
For many women, the first three months of pregnancy can bring fatigue and nausea. If these symptoms are present, you certainly aren’t gonna feel like gettin’ your groove on. A recent study shows that 54 percent of pregnant women experience diminished desire during the first trimester. Don’t worry. Your interest is likely to pick up again in just a few weeks.
- Second Trimester
This is the “Golden Time” of pregnancy, particularly when it comes to sex. The fatigue and nausea have lifted, and you may be feeling sexy again as you begin to “show.” At this stage pregnancy brings an increased blood supply to the pelvic area. Your breasts increase in size during pregnancy, enlarging even more with sexual arousal. Be aware that dads may feel inhibited as they come to terms with the fact that you are carrying a real, live baby. They may be concerned about hurting the baby (I am sure Dad thinks he might poke an eye out or something) or about him “overhearing” sexual activity. If you do develop serious concerns please talk to your doctor or midwife about any concerns you have, and try to enjoy this period.
- Third Trimester
Toward the end of the final trimester, many couples experience a drop in sexual activity. The sheer girth of a pregnant woman’s belly may make lovemaking difficult — except in a few “creative” positions. Even so, many couples continue to enjoy relations right up until the end. Can sex late in pregnancy cause preterm labor? A recent study by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists shows that intercourse after 29 weeks does not increase a woman’s risk for preterm labor (assuming that the pregnancy is a normal one).
The Big O
Orgasms can be much different during pregnancy. Some woman will finally become orgasmic during pregnancy due to the increased fluids in the area making you much more sensitive. Other women will become multi-orgasmic for the first time.
In general, orgasms are very good for you and baby! When you have an orgasm the baby is unaware of what you are doing, but does experience the euphoric hormone rush that you will experience. There will also be minor rhythmical contractions of the uterus, as there have always been, but now that the uterus is bigger you can feel them much more. This is not preterm labor, unless you have this cramping sensation or contractions for more than one hour.
Maintaining Intimacy and Open Communication
Mutual understanding and open communication will help you and your partner survive these nine months. In the meantime, you may need to get creative. Try different positions or experiment with massaging and touching one another in new ways. Most importantly, start to stress quality over quantity when it comes to sex. This advice will carry over into the exhilarating but busy child-rearing years